Joanna Gaines has gone through many ups and downs with her husband, Chip Gaines. Here’s why she says being married to a risk taker is like “riding a roller coaster.”
Joanna Gaines says that Chip taught her to take risks
Joanna admits that she is not very risky. She usually tries to reduce or avoid risk if she can. But in the summer edition of Magnolia Journal she tells her readers that she learned to be more comfortable with the risk after seeing how fearless Chip is about trying new things.
“Not all risks will make a big splash,” writes Joanna. “Some will be forged patiently, steadily and uncomfortably. Chip and I had already proved in our own relationship what can happen when I let something grow on me instead of making a quick assessment or an unshakable conclusion at first glance. Chip calls it my “slow yes”, and I have learned to trust it especially in matters of both work and home. “
Joanna says that her journey has not been a straight line
Things do not always go as planned for Chip and Joanna Gaines. Joanna tells her readers that she has come to the point where she accepts that life is like a roller coaster ride when you are married to someone like Chip, who likes to take risks. Despite the ups and downs, Joanna says she continued to learn:
Being married to a free-ranging risk taker feels strangely similar to riding a roller coaster. Every time I built up the courage to go into the unknown, Chip and I would accelerate in one direction – up, up, up. And soon we would be in completely free fall again. Our lives were already built on a steady diet of risk, failure and growth. But when I learned, Chip and I always landed. Feet together. Side by side.
What a “slow yes” means for Joanna Gaines
What does it really mean to give a “slow yes?” Joanna says that it means having the courage to believe in the process. It is about not making decisions out of fear. “The courage to trust what you already feel down in your legs,” writes Joanna. And it does not always seem to follow any harebrained idea. Sometimes it seems like standing firm and holding on to your beliefs and ideals, because it can also be a risk. “
Joanna has learned to automatically consider saying ‘no’ to new experiences
Joanna says that she has also learned from Chip not to say ‘no’ directly because she is insecure or uncomfortable with something. She says that she now spends time learning more about what she is considering instead of letting emotions take over and influence her decisions.
“And when I feel like the tugboat to lean in or learn more, it’s my clue to stay still while it’s being worked out,” says Joanna. “Seeing where it leads me. And sometimes what may seem like the easiest no in the world becomes a slow yes. “
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