Incredible space from often unexplored ways, meant reserves the mechanisms and beliefs that can often take root within us without being able to identify the root cause. Specifically, this happens to the complexes: "We do not know when and how they have settled in our deepest being, but they are there, continuous obstacles to our daily well-being," say the experts from Guidapsicologi.it who, in order to trying to understand something more, they decided to conduct a survey with their users.
A study from which a kind of map of the vast world of complexes appears.
The company [ ] is obviously called law, especially when it comes to psyche. Most respondents claim, not surprisingly, that the complexes they are affected by are aesthetic (46%). The following are not too far away, the relational (42%).
Appearance, in short, and sociality, two themes that we do not suffer a little from. Often more intertwined than you think. It is interesting to note that the respondents trace the basis of their relational discomfort purely aesthetic causes : because of their own body, one cannot feel comfortable in relation to the others. Only 1
But where do these problems come from? When asked about the origin of their complexes, 76% of those surveyed stated in some uncertain manner that adolescence was the most important moment where everything was defined and unfortunately often crystallized. Only 24% trace events after age 20 .
So youth, together with phase preadolescent it is a very delicate phase and at the same time crucial for the formation of character of the individual the first love, the first friendship , the first releases, the first battles, and of course, the first disappointments. In short, the construction of one's own identity.
But uncertainty does not seem endless. Fortunately, it is developing. 41% state that with age complexes change and positive news, for 32% improve . Only for a pessimistic attachment (27%) do the complexes get worse over the years. "At the root of these responses is awareness of change and development – write the experts – or the interpretation of life as a growth path and of overcoming one's own boundaries, which often tend to decline but which , if taken from the front, can be a reason to improve and strengthen their own person. So complex changes, as well as human beings, what is important is that they are occasionally overcome. "
But society succeeds, often the cause of these pressure, take on another role? Unfortunately, the data is not comforting: 81% state that for them school, work and society have actually been deteriorated complex and only for 19% they were the site of their victory.
Very often, group dynamics and related pressures lead to individuals who are to focus on a specific physical property for their origin, for their own taste, for their own attitudes. An excellent exercise for everyone, before assessing and addressing the next, is that thinks what it would be like for inverted roles and then wonders if it is really so interesting to comment on others and what we really do. Answer: nothing.
"This is the most accurate approach to trying to overcome the complexes and more than half of the respondents (52%) – the researchers conclude – hiring is acceptance is always the first step to be comfortable with themselves and not feeling victim to the comments of others, which generate uncertainty and cause the complexes to settle down in depth.
Again as a consequence of this awareness, 34% try to overcome their own complexes by to put together a therapeutic pathway while a 14% of disillusionment thinks he will never be able to get out of it . It is important to address your own complex, because they can be the starting point for more complicated pathologies and trigger more disruptive mechanisms.
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