Dear ABBY: My ex-husband had a deal years ago, and when our divorce was final, he married the woman he was involved with. I call her “Libby.”
Although I have moved on, it bothers me when she refers to my children as her children. I have asked her to stop, but she continues to talk about “her daughter”
My kids don’t like Libby, so if she tries to make the world think that they are a big happy family then it won’t work.
I think it’s rude of her to insist on telling people that this is her child. It is as if Libby not only took my husband but she also claims that I am the mother of my children. How should I deal with this miserable person who refuses to have it?
REAL MOM IN KENTUCKY
DEAR MOTHER: Libby gets it, and she can keep doing it to get your goat. But this is not a fight you should choose. It is possible that “stepmother” is simply trying to acknowledge her role in the parental equation.
Dear ABBY: Is it appropriate to confront someone in a toilet about not washing their hands, whether at work or in public? I noticed at work that some of my co-workers walk right past the sink or rinse my hands with water for a while and then leave.
I think that washing your hands thoroughly with soap is more important now than ever, and not washing your hands is a health risk.
COVER Laundry in TEXAS
LOVE LOOK: You are right. It is a health risk. Everyone should recognize this fact in the light of the current health crisis.
According to the Mayo Clinic, unwashed hands are disease spreaders, which is why medical personnel and workers in the food industry are urged to be diligent about it.
That said, I don’t think it would make sense to take on the parent role and remind your co-workers to wash their hands after using the bathroom. However, you can suggest to your manager, when people no longer work remotely, that it would be wise to issue a memo about the importance of frequent hand washing.
Dear ABBY: My sister, “Camille,” and I have almost nothing in common. She lives far where I do. We have rarely seen each other over the years, but when we have done, she has always dropped a nasty comment or two and ridiculed me or my husband or our lifestyle.
She recently took early retirement and wants to visit. Another sister says Camille is much more relaxed now because working full time was very stressful for her. I gave up a relationship with her a long time ago, and I have no desire to see or entertain her. We didn’t even like each other as kids. Still, I feel obliged to say no to her visit.
Is it OK to draw the line of contact with a family member?
Leave me alone in Washington
LOVING LIFE: Yes it is. And it’s also OK to tell exactly why.
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